R is for resist or receive
Have you ever heard that the cause of suffering is resistance to what is? It is so true. Whenever I start to get a string of cancellations at work or no shows for appointments, my brain starts to resist this saying “NO!! It’s not possible!, What are they doing? Don’t they know I have bills to pay? How can this be???” This list of chatter is long and tormenting. It causes much anxiety in my body and life. Yet, it doesn’t change a thing. It doesn’t make the person all of a sudden show up, or keep the original appointment. It just ruins an otherwise perfectly good day. What is happening is simple resistance. Resistance to what is showing up at that moment. Our brains think that is we have some control over thing, people, situations. For the most part we do not.
The GOOD part in all of this is that when you let go of resisting what is happening you can be open to RECEIVE. The lesson or opportunity that lies behind what is happening. Sometimes it is REALLY hard to go there, but with practice you can start to unravel the web of resistance and find the golden thread of receiving instead. Yesterday, I had my 5th cancellation for this week.. this happened 10 minutes before her appointment. I literally was about to FREAK OUT. My usual brain tantrum was happening up above..then I said to myself “ok.. breathe. What does this mean? She is sick..this happens… I can sit here and go to a complete place of worry or I can take this new found two hours of time in my day and do something else.” So I went home, took my dog for a short walk, did some yoga and paid some bills. I went back to work in a much better place mentally. My afternoon picked up and all was well. Had I sat there and resisted, worried, fretted the day would have been a waste. I was able to turn it around and receive the gift of extra time I had been given. This doesn’t happen all the time for me.. I tend more towards the resist and worry side of things. I am making a conscious effort this new year to choose acceptance and receiving. I know I have 46 years of the old habit to break so I am going to throw a little compassion and patience in there too and hopefully end up with a nice shiny new habit that grows stronger each time I choose it!
I hope you are open to receiving the gifts of this day whatever they may be for you!